The Key to Change is Surrender

“The key to change is surrender”

I have been pondering this phrase for a few days. When I read it, the words jumped out and imprinted themselves on my mind. I suppose I will be reminding myself of this phrase quite often. I have been known to be one who doesn’t change easily. I am a little hard-headed. Not necessarily a bad quality, it has served me well in tough times. .

I read those words in John C. Maxwell’s book, Failing Forward. They are the direct quote of a gentleman named, Dave Anderson.  He was referring to overcoming his addiction to alcohol. First, let me recommend this book to anyone who feels stuck or has too many crazy voices in their head telling them they are some form of failure, not good enough or constantly replaying every time you made a mistake. I call it being stuck because you just haven’t gotten back up yet.

We all need to “change” something: a bad habit, a relationship, an addiction, attitudes etc. But, part of changing is admitting there is a problem. While we don’t need to become “new” people, we can become renewed or improved in certain areas. Remember, we have the seeds of greatness within us, but we may have some weeds choking out growth of those seeds. Pull the weeds. For example, What if your weed is procrastination? How does procrastination affect your ability to be the best you possible? Procrastination can create stress, chaos and turmoil for you and those involved. Procrastination can foster tardiness, it could affect the outcomes for others, and may deplete the confidence of others in your ability to be reliable. You might not identify it as “a big deal” because you like to fly by the seat of your pants. Great for you, but not everybody else. Therefore, relationships suffer. To overcome– you would have to “surrender” to the idea that procrastination is affecting you and those around you…. then the real kicker is you’d have to be open to means of improvement and committed to implementation.

If surrender is the key– it is also only a step in the process. It is a series of things that bring about long-term change. In my field, we have a system of activities that when implemented drive ongoing success. You’ll often hear us joke around and say, “Submit to the system!” It is so hard for us to do– surrender and  submit. Often times, we have to move our own ego out of the way, because it is prohibiting our growth and renewal. We think of surrendering as giving up power- but in reality, if embraced, it can lead to greater power.

How is that possible? Surrendering GROWS you! Remember, we are in the process of weeding out old habits, addictions, and negative behavior that are inhibiting our greatness. By surrendering, you are open to growth. You will challenge yourself to become more and to overcome. By submitting, you are agreeing to a series of ideas or activities that will drive the outcome you desire– and your seeds of greatness will have room to grow.

I do not see this as a “giving up” surrender. I see it as a very powerful, look-at-the-person-in-the-mirror, personal revelation surrender. Or better yet…a release. Releasing the old way to make room for the new way. Releasing the anchor so you can soar. Surrendering to achieve and empower yourself.

Surrender and repeat: I can be better! am valuable! I have great gifts to share! I will always strive to be the best version of myself!


New year— A BETTER YOU!

Happy New Year!  2015– WOW! Can you believe it? I can’t. I am still a little in “year” shock.  But, don’t let that fool you, I have been in full force reflection for a few weeks now.

One of the trends we see a lot of during this transition time is the phrase, “NEW YEAR, NEW YOU!”  I do not like that phrase. Maybe a better way to approach your year is — New year– A BETTER you! Because really, you are pretty awesome. Maybe you need some tweeking, refinement, refocus. You may need to become healthier in mind, body or spirit– but you don’t need to become a different person. You need to become a better version of yourself.

AFFIRMATION:  “I am becoming better and better everyday in every way”

One of the greatest gifts I received this holiday season was a little book called, “ONE WORD that will change your life” by Jon Gordon, Dan Britton and Jimmy Page. What a great little gem. The idea is to choose one word to center your life around. Use it to help re-align you and drive your focus for the year. I share this with you to help you gather your focus into a central theme so that you can become more– so that you can achieve more. Not new — but better!

My whole family and many of my friends are participating in this exercise. Here are some examples of our words:

Peace, Consistency, Drive, Faith, Happy, Release, Joy, Focus


Build a Dream Board. I totally thought this was hokey. Really. Hokey. I was wrong. I halfheartedly put one together last year… and guess what… things started happening! Not exactly how I planned it, so I made a mental note to *be more specific. Do not let my future be left to chance in my thoughts and visions. Now my dream board is full and elaborate and I find great joy in looking at it.

So have some fun– put your board together. My family and I do this as a project it is way fun. And this year, we added our “word.”

You become that which you gaze upon

Plan tomorrow before tomorrow begins. Align your day with your priorities, your word and your goals. We fill our days with lots of “busy” but busy doesn’t drive us where we need to be. High payoff activities do. Focus on the things that get you to your destination. While you are planning, schedule a bit of time for what keeps YOU healthy: meditation or prayer, movement for the body, and good words to fill the mind.

Books I love: Outliers, Think and Grow Rich, From Good to Great, The Slight Edge, The Magic of Thinking Big, Untethered Soul, Funny SIde Up, Failing Forward

People I listen to: Les Brown, Jim Rohn, Shawn Achor,


Maybe these are things you already know. They were for me, implementation was my issue. I overwhelmed myself with too many things to make me “NEW.” Now, with my focus on my one word, my vision board to hold my focus, my affirmations to remind myself of what I want and great words to fuel my mind I am becoming a better version of myself today than I was yesterday!

2015 is set to be a great year!  I CAN do this one day at a time, and so can you!!

Be blessed and be a blessing!